Relationships - the 'war-ships' of your otherwise peaceful life. But well, since life doesnt seem 'complete' without them, let me present you with some awesome ways to make a relationship work. And you better implement these - for they arent coming from just any random single dude.. they are from a 'war veteran' whos become just like India now - huge army but no damn wars.
(1) DONT EXPECT THE OTHER PERSON TO LOVE YOU THE WAY YOU LOVE THEM
Sometime in the past, a wise dude said (after getting drunk and remembering the good times with his ex) - 'Expectations kill relationships'. He was fuckin right. And the No 1 in the expectations list? Wanting the other person to love you the way you adore them. Thats crap actually. Everyone has their own way of showing affection. Some people go "I love you"-ing every 5 seconds while some are reclusive and dont say that often.. but that doesnt mean they love any less.
Point is to take care of your love - period. And let the other person take care of theirs. Period.
(2) SPACE - AND MORE SPACE
I know theres an awesome saying - 'If you want Space, Join NASA!' but it doesnt work in relationships. They need space. You and your partner need their personal space. You know what that does? Enhances mutual respect. And thats what counts. Ofcourse how much respect you need- is subjective but when you learn to define the actual limits, trust me- relationships rock; instead of being 'on the rocks'.
#CHEESY LINE ATTACK
And heres the typical emotional and cheesy line suited for such "love advice posts" - When you give your relationship its logically defined space - it fills that up with love and nothing else.
#ATTACK OVER - RESUME NORMAL LIFE
(3) BE HONEST - DIPLOMATICALLY - ESP IN FIGHTS
If you love someone, you wouldnt want to hurt them right? Also, you wouldnt wanna be deceptive. So be honest in your feelings about things - esp if you dont like something about the other person - but say that in a non-hurtful way.. esp during fights. We say ridiculous things i.e. hit 'below the belt' during weak moments which comes back later to haunt us.
(4) HAVE A POSITIVE EGO - NOT DESTRUCTIVE ONE
Destructive Ego - I am the best and always right. Others can fuck themselves.
Positive Ego - I wont compromise on my self-esteem but I will decide on something after logically seeing other person's point of view. No backing down if m logically right but if m wrong, no harm apologizing.
I think you get the point.
(5) NEVER LET THE ROMANCE DIE
Frankly speaking - lifes too much fucked up otherwise. Your relationship may be the only saving grace for you in a day. So, treat it that way. If you love someone, dont let the romance die. And that doesnt mean goin on candlelight marches err.. dinner everyday or sitting outside watching stars; it means that telling the other person subtly how special they are for you. And this can be done through the simplest gestures such as making a personalised card/scrapbook on their b'day.
Cant think of any more ways. If a relationship has to work, it will and it should. Everything should be done to save it. But if something isnt gonna work, it wont however hard you may try. Recognize that and if you fall in the former category - go all ass ballistic to work it out man!